Of course!. . . this is a loaded question.
Once again I am trying to help you to pay attention to your thoughts – all the time.
Let’s start today with a quotation so your perspective, while you are reading this, is aligned with what I am about to say regarding the above question.
“Don’t cling to anything and don’t reject anything. Let come what comes, and accommodate yourself to that, whatever it is.
If good mental images arise, that is fine.
If bad mental images arise, that is fine, too.
Look on all of it as equal, and make yourself comfortable with whatever happens. Don’t fight with what you experience, just observe it all mindfully.”
-Bhante Henepola Gunaratana, “Mindfulness in Plain English”
It does not matter where it came from, who wrote it, it is very thought provoking, it can get you thinking –
If you do think that who wrote it and what religion or philosophy they ascribe to, you are doing exactly what the quote is telling you not to.
If you decide it’s validity based on who said it, you close down any receptivity you may have to beneficial insight you could realize from openly entertaining the ideas.
And actively thinking on new and different ideas which may come from a perspective differing from our own is exactly what we all need in order to fully understand our own perspectives and to discover something new.
Most people who are actively working on growing their life know that you must be open to something new, otherwise all you can do is recycle what you currently understand – that’s not growth.
I know I probably need to tell you this, but just because you already know what I have just said, how much do you actually seek new ideas that may challenge what you know and deeply think about them?
We all know many things that can benefit us, but how much do we practice or use it?
This short quote says a lot,
I think you are aware of how your mind will immediately relate something in your immediate experience to similar situations from the past.
We will tend to interpret the new experience in a similar way as we have done before – there is a pattern established in your programmed mind.
And some emotional feelings will be attached to this, the same ones attached to your memory based on how you were involved in the prior experiences.
The emotional feelings are generally categorized as good or bad – but why?
These past emotional feelings are based on your reactions to something, not the thing itself.
A thing, situation or experience does not come pre-loaded with a specific emotional feeling.
That comes from our judgement, which is based on our personal perspective at the time.
And this pattern will repeat until you purposefully change it.
So, new experiences can be looked at differently than in the past, but you have to mentally realize what you are doing when you start to interpret and judge it.
– Your past programming is welling up.
As the quote states, not judging it at all is best, this way you are not applying a specific emotional label to the experience – it just is.
Further, the quote talks about allowing whatever feelings you get to be OK – don’t fight them.
I know about now, this may sound like I am talking in circles – don’t judge, allow, and be OK with whatever you feel.
Yes, all of it together at the same time.
This is another example of the harmony of life – it’s not all or nothing.
It IS about balancing both sides.
Allowing what is and being OK with it is just an observation.
You can notice how you feel about something without getting emotionally involve currently.
This way you are not adding more, new emotional energy to it, and
You can be separate from your feelings and better analyze the best way for you to feel about it.
Maybe in a different way than you have in the past.
Try to allow things to be as they are, not how you have categorized them in the past.
A new perspective takes a new approach
– try something new and different
– with an open mind.
Your mental authority –
Your unconscious mind that wants to keep things going as they have been.
Why did I react that way?
Why do I feel this way every time _______?
Why do I feel this way about him/her?
Ask yourself about any topic:
Why do I see it that way?
Why do I feel about it as I do?
Ask. . . .
If you want to know
Remember, We Are One
How has your programmed perspective and interpretation affected the way you see and treat others?
How did these attitudes get started?
Do they need to remain this way forever?
Why not start from the idea of how you would rather interact others and then adjust your perspective to match.
Go make it better out there!