A Beautiful Story of Kindness Alters Perspective
I received this message from my daughter, Jennifer earlier today and just thought that it was worth sharing with you. I'm not sure of the original source.
This is a beautiful and touching story --
I arrived at the address where someone had requested a taxi. I honked but no one came out. I honked again, nothing. So I walked to the door and knocked. 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.
After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie.
By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets..
There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.
'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, and then returned to assist the woman.
She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.
She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated'..
'Oh, you're such a good boy', she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?'
'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.
'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice'.
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued. 'The doctor says I don't have very long.'
I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.
'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.
We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.
Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.
I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
'How much do I owe you?' she asked, reaching into her purse.
'Nothing,' I said
'You have to make a living,' she answered.
'There are other passengers,' I responded.
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said.
'Thank you.'
I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift?
What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?
On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.
***
We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.
But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID, BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.
You won't get any big surprise in 10 days if you send this to ten people. But, you might help make the world a little kinder and more compassionate by sending it on.
Thank you, my friend...
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.
And the art of being wise is the art to know what to overlook.
Author unknown
Some related quotes:
«The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.»
-- William James
«Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, ''What's in it for me?''» -- Brian Tracy
«Life... It tends to respond to our outlook, to shape itself to meet our expectations.» -- Richard M. DeVos





















































4 comments
3 years and 1 month ago
Hi John,
Beautiful story. Yes, sometimes we get so caught up we miss the truly wonderful things in life.
If you decide to add a blogroll, I'd love to be included. I've added you to mine.
Best,
Debbie
http://debbiefoster.net
3 years and 1 month ago
What a fantastic and touching story. Reminds me of a client I had until she sadly passed away a coupe of years back aged 93. I used to go and visit her in her sheltered apartment and she always insisted on making a sandwich and a cut of tea. We did whatever business paperwork we had usually in the first 10 minutes but I was always there for a couple of hours at least.
Our conversations covered many topics and she was in her working life a World Health Organisation employee. she had worked in many hot spots around the globe including being in the Congo during the troubles in the 1960's, not a nice place to be.
She discovered I was a Radio amateur and then opened up to tell me another chapter of her life. during the Second Worlds War she was an army communications officer and worked in the same bunker as Winston Churchill. she told me that shewas a pretty poor morse code operator and missed lots on receive. On one occasion there was a Royal visit to the bunker and she was being observed by obe of them. At one juncture the Princess pointed out that she had taken down the message incorrectly and handed a perfectly written version she had been taking in the background. Admitting she was not too hot on receive the Princess said 'its our secret' and said her farewell winking as she left.
Basically she was very lonely and my business visits were a highlight in her social calendar. We became quite close friends really and when she moved away to the home counties to be near family just before Xmas 2006 she sent a card from her new home that arrived after the New Year break. A couple of days later I took a call from her nephew who called to tell me of her death. I was very saddened to lose a friend with such an interesting life story to recount.
Sitting here with laptop on my knees listening to the rain lashing
against the window and the near gale force wind.
I'm in Cornwall just about 3 miles inland from the Atlantic, my North Westerly
horizon. listening to nit I for one wouild not want to be on any yacht tomorrow, best of luck Alex Jeffreys hope you have a supply of paper bags!
Wonder if you have looked at the Forum I have put up yet. If not pop over and register, there are already around 20 members and posts are already picking up in number, excellent
link is http://www.g4usbmarketing.com/forum
I have just changed my blog theme for a three column one with widgets and have been working at editing and fine tuning. At last after 4 days
analytics has started to work so I had done it ok it just took that long to kick in. Learning all the time.
Anyway, nice to touch base with another friend I have yet to meet.
Norman
You are a link on my site by the way
3 years and 1 month ago
Hello John,
That is a great story. It reminds me of the lessons I have learned from my wife. She is from Venezuela. The people in South America are very family oriented.
They take great care to treat their elderly with respect and do every thing possible to make their last days on earth enjoyable. You won't find them stuck in an «old folks» home down there unless they require constant medical attention.
I've added you to my blog roll. After the brain storming session with Alex, I decided to take suggestions for tutorial videos. I am going to hold a Camtasia marathon this weekend, so stop by and place your vote.
JT
3 years and 1 month ago
Love the story - brought tears to my eyes.
I've added your blog to my list of students.
If ever you get the chance come over and visit.
Take care.
Jean Shaw
http://www.jeansmenopausalmoment.com/blog
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