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Affirmative questions or ‘Afformations’ can help you make the changes you want to improve your life.
Affirmations have been touted as a way to assist your mind in supporting what you want through aligned thinking. It has been shown to have a great deal of effectiveness when used properly. It’s important to know that just making positive statements alone may not bring about what you want, but it can be a help. There are other factors involved.
One of the most common factors that can detract from the effectiveness of an affirmation is your beliefs and perceptions. Most people are not fully aware of them all, yet they are a major controlling factor in their lives. If you make a positive statement related to something you want and it is not congruent with a belief you are not aware of, your mind will argue with the statement. After you have made the statement, your mind may come back with, “yea, right . . . not in a million years!” or “You’re not like that, stop trying to pretend.”
Part of your mind will make a comparison between what you are saying you want and the knowledge and experience you have collected up to this point in your life. You may say, “I am living an abundant life.” and your mind comes back with, “No you’re not, you’re poor, look at the evidence, and always have been.” So does this mean you are stuck with what you’ve had? No, but you may need to do more than make affirmation statements to get your mind to assist you with experiencing something different.
In understanding how the mind works you can do things that has it working for your growth and progress rather than keeping you the same. One way is to utilize the minds natural tendency to solve and answer. I’m sure you are familiar with how your mind helps you come up with reasons why you should be upset about something you are upset about. How your mind chatter will be helping you to justify four feelings and prove why you should think and feel as you do.
The human mind is designed to solve or answer a need or unknown. Have you noticed how motivated people are to discover an unknown, or to get information they don’t have? Pose a question or a need and there is a strong inner drive to get an answer. The mind naturally wants to come up with a way to fill in the void of the unknown. What sells magazines? Leading questions that create awareness of an unknown that a person craves to know. The headlines of many magazines are utilizing one of the most basic human drives, the need to know!
You can use this natural basic human tendency for your advantage in making changes in your life. Rather than make statements that your mind can argue with, make statements it wants to help answer or solve for you. Ask leading questions that direct your mind to work for you, helping come up with why and how you are as you want to be, do or have.
For example, if you want to be healthy and energetic and you have not been so in the past, making the statement, “I am healthy and energetic.” may get a negation from your mind. So instead ask your mind a question. Ask, “Why am I so healthy and energetic?”
Your mind will now be seeking ways to answer and satisfy your question. You have actually been doing this for a long time but probably in a negative way. It’s so common for people to ask themselves a series of questions that confirm the undesirable. “Why am I so . . . ?, Why do I always . . . ?, why don’t I . . . ? and so on. But this form of self questioning is not often used in a positive affirming way. Your mind will go about providing you answers, proof and evidence to whatever you ask it. The most powerful way to change your thinking is to alter the unseen patterns of thought that are guiding most of your life experience. Your mind will do this as it develops and integrates the answers to your questions.
Noah St. John labeled this kind of affirmative question ‘Afformations’ in his book, [amazon ASIN=”0061715743”]”The Secret Code of Success: 7 Hidden Steps to More Wealth and Happiness”[/amazon]. You can get his full explanation of using affirmative question statements to get your mind aligning with what you want, along with specific examples in many areas of life in his book.
Here are some examples on how to convert the non affirming questions and statements you may be saying to yourself:
“Why don’t I have enough money?” to “Why do I have more than enough money?”
“Why am I never happy?” to “Why am I so happy?”
“Why am I alone?” to “Why am I in this great relationship?”
As Noah St John suggests, convert your negative questions into positive affirming questions about what you do want. This can be done with negative self statements as well as in. . .
Using affirmative questions, or ‘Affirmations’, is a powerful way to change your self-talk, to alter the thought patterns you are unaware of, and to get your mind to go to work unveiling ways for you to be, do and have what you want.
If you take the time to integrate this practice into your life I feel you will find yourself getting some great results.
A while back I saved an article I read about a girls college softball team that did something amazing. They identified with positive motivating statements and started winning games. This is a perfect example of how self-talk and affirmations can affect your actions.
It started when coach Kathy Straham of Sacramento State looked up 10 motivational sports related sayings and asked each player to pick two that they could relate to. The girls took this to heart and after receiving the sayings they started to win games, in fact they logged 8 consecutive victories ending the season as winning their conference.
Here are a few of the sayings that helped motivate the players into believing in themselves;
“The best way to predict your future is to create it.” – unknown
“Ask not what your teammates can do for you; ask what you can do for your teammates.”
– Magic Johnson
“Champions keep playing until they get it right.” – Billie Jean King
“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way; if you don’t, you’ll find and excuse.” – unknown
If you say these statements to yourself and allow yourself to get excited about the meaning, your motivation will increase. When your motivation increases, you will do more, do it better and with more energy. Then you will see some success, which in turn increases your motivation, your energy and your desire to take actions. With more success comes more motivation, more energy, more action . . .
See what happens – all from a statement that you choose to internalize and get emotional about in a positive way. Many think that repeating positive phrases does nothing towards success. I know different and so does the team described above.
The power of doing this is in what it does to your thinking, then your feelings – that’s where the power is. If you are not experiencing what you want, your thinking is not supporting what you want, it can’t be any other way. By repeating a positive supportive phrase that is in alignment with what you want and who you want to be, you are essentially retraining your minds default thinking. Default thinking is those thoughts that just come up on their own, you can change that with better more supportive thoughts.
What statements can you come up with that support what you want?
What statements can you get intense feelings about?
Find them, read them, think about them, and imagine through them.
It starts with ‘I think I can’
As you make attempts with this mindset it will get easier to do and you will start to see more ways to align your thinking with the life direction or accomplishment you desire.