If you allow fear to stop you – you fail.
In fact that is the only way to fail . . . to never attempt.
If you try and when it does not work properly, you adjust and go again – eventually you will win.
If you never try – you can never win.
And some form of fear can do this to you.
Many get locked into inaction due to the idea that they think they need to work out all the details and possible problems before getting started.
They are afraid that they may run into something they are not aware of and not know how to deal with it.
This concept is the cause of more failure than anything else.
We can get locked in a mental stalemate – thinking that we need to know more to feel confident, yet the best way to learn more is to do more.
True learning comes from analyzing what you do.
Thinking about it actually only approximates what may happen.
Only in the actual doing do you fully interact with all possibilities.
When something is new to you, you cannot know ALL of the possible interactions.
Only after attempting will you be able to come from a perspective of intimate involvement.
Another thing about worry is that it is all a MAYBE.
Take a reasonable amount of time to do a reasonable amount of research and rep work – then take the action you can best determine at the time.
– knowing that you will likely not have every bit of minute possibility covered.
You can’t . . unless you know it all!
Some think they do!
The trap we get stuck in is to believe that we need to know one more thing about it, or solve one more potential roadblock.
How long can this go on?
When you think of one thing, then something new is now possible.
And on, and on, and on.
There is an endless supply of ‘maybes’ out there,
. . . but what will really happen only reveals itself when you get going and get intimate with the activity.
Preparation is good and prudent, to a degree.
There is a fine line between not enough preparation and too much.
Are you stuck in the place where you want to feel totally secure before you make a move?
It won’t happen, you must take the leap of faith before knowing it all.
What you are actually telling yourself is that you don’t have confidence in your ability to handle what may come up.
And of course you do.
You will only be able to think from the proper perspective to analyze an outcome after all the features are exposed.
Think about walking on a trail in the woods.
How will you know exactly what your view will be around the next bend?
You may have a map that can provide SOME insight, but not the actual setting and situation.
If you drive a car, you are well able to deal with new situations quickly, as they become present.
You have this ability to utilize with everything you do.
I’ll bet you wondered if you could deal with all the movement of other people and vehicles when you first started to drive.
Confidence is two things –
It is first a decision,
Then it is cumulative.
You need to just decide that you can handle what comes up, just like you have with other things you have done.
After you get going with anything your confidence builds – as long as you keep going.
Each little victory bolsters your confidence.
It is actually better to acknowledge that you will run into unknown situations.
This way there is less mystery to it – it is now a known.
Know that you have the ability to analyze and handle whatever comes up,
And that you will not allow a hitch to stop you.
Know that if you just keep going, making adjustments and more attempts – you will get there.
This process of ‘doing’ will reveal all that you need to take care of in order to win – not before.
You must start on the path before you discover what is one mile out.
This is just buying into some fear, doubt or worry.
Feel and acknowledge the fear and do it anyway.
Fear is just a signal – not a stop sign.
Sure – heighten your awareness for some possibility – but proceed.
Sitting back and using your ability to wonder will not get you down the path.
Get doing – down the path
“It seems that the necessary thing to do is not to fear mistakes, to plunge in, to do the best that one can, hoping to learn enough from blunders to correct them eventually.”
— Abraham Maslow
“When defeat comes, accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more toward your coveted goal.” — Napoleon Hill
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear, and get a record of successful experiences behind you.”
–William Jennings Bryan
“Fear is not a disease of the body; fear kills the soul.”
“Feel the fear and do it anyway”
— Susan Jeffers