Procrastination holding you back?
Procrastination holding you back?
Many times when you want to do something and you attempt to do activities towards the new, you find it to be very difficult. It may even appear that you are stopping yourself. Well many times you are!
Procrastination is usually based on some block you have about doing something based on a fear, or some sort of confusion about what to do.
As to being confused, the mind can hold us back if we think we must know everything clearly before proceeding. This needing to know everything, based on the fear of the unknown, is just our rationalization of what we perceive.
To move ahead, you need to get yourself to mentally allow yourself to proceed with what you do know, with the faith that additional clarity will continue to be revealed as you proceed towards the goal. The key here is that you must start, you must do something, whatever you know now.
As to the blocks, there are many potential things in your mind that can be the basis of a block. As you said, fear of rejection, also fear of success, failure, feeling you don’t deserve it, aren’t capable, don’t know how, what will others think, and the new endeavor not fitting into your perception of yourself based on the past or self-concept.
The way to get over these blocks, as with any thing is to face them. Don’t continue to bury them. They must be brought up, faced, analyzed and understood. At one time the feelings or thought habits served a purpose, but you can decide it they are appropriate for you today. If they are not, thank them for serving you in the past and let them go.
Decide on a new perception and attitude regarding the future. Those old things can be converted into mere memories rather than controlling programs for today.
Seek to see the feelings clearly in a positive curious way.
I suggest asking yourself questions, but phrase them in the positive not the negative. Ask from the perspective of seeking revealing and helpful answers not from the point of frustration or resentment.
Ask yourself questions such as,
What are my feelings about ____?
Why do I feel this way?
What purpose are these feelings?
Then ask again to the answers you get – then why do I feel this way? – and again and again, to drill down to the deeper root feeling and original seed, beginning of the feelings.
Why did I need to do this then, for what purpose?
How does this serve me now?
How else can I feel about this today?
Vary the questions as appropriate for you but continue to be persistent with this but relaxed at the same time. Do not try to force yourself.
Give it time, you may not get a clear answer the first time asking, your ego mind my want to protect you from any potential discomfort, which is why the feelings are buried in the first place.
Just keep asking calmly and tell yourself to be open to what ever needs to come up for you to clearly understand this.
There are other things you can do to help discover the blocks and change the habits, like hypnotherapy and the related NLP, meditation, brain wave work, EFT techniques and more.
If you are not having good results by yourself get some assistance with it, because until you can change the way your brain is dealing with these thoughts they will continue in the same way.
You are at the first crucial step, you recognize that something is there in your mind that does not properly support where you want to go on your life. It would not rise up as it has if it did not need to be dealt with.
One more thing is don’t allow yourself to be resentful of those feelings or habits, remember that at one time in the past they served you for some reason. Bless them and let them go so that you will have space to set up a new way to think about it. If you are angry or resentful you will actually continue to focus on what you no longer want and it will persist!
What you resist, persists!
Seek to understand, analyze and let go, create the new concept that allows you to move forward.
Reformatting habits established in the past is part of our ongoing growth process – if you look at it as such.
Welcome change even if it feels uncomfortable. It’s only uncomfortable because your ego doesn’t want you to feel bad. You must step through it or you will always stay as you are.
That’s growth!
John
