August 29, 2006

Are You Treating Yourself Right?

There is a seemingly small thing that you can be doing to yourself that makes things less enjoyable.

It can determine the difference in how you feel while you are doing something laborious or difficult, trying to accomplish something, or even affect your overall disposition.

It’s how you treat yourself, or how you don’t treat yourself.

Do you tend to be a taskmaster with yourself?

Do you allow yourself to feel rushed and stressed, and thinking there is no time for yourself to enjoy what you are doing?

Many times when we are faced with doing something that we have decided is absolutely necessary, we get so intense with it that we are not just not happy, we are noticeably unhappy.

Who says that we must be unhappy, even when we are doing something that we think is important?

Feeling bad about what you must do is like punishing yourself for doing it.

It may actually be hard but hard does not mean bad or negative.

Everything is not easy, so learn to enjoy it all.

Remember that life is a process.

So when you are working on changing yourself, or you trying to accomplish something, don’t be so hard on yourself.

Who says you have to be miserable during the process before you have changed or accomplished what you want?

Why not reward yourself as you go along.

This can help reduce the stress of a lengthy process, but actually it can help you actually come to enjoy the process you are in.

You want to do more than just remove the negative feelings, that would just bring you to neutral, rather you want to add the positive happy feelings.

You can purposefully build in a rewards system for yourself.

Set smaller goals within the larger task of project as points where you can pull away from the intensity for a bit and enjoy something.

This also gives you the feeling of accomplishment sooner than waiting for the whole thing to be done.

Choose carefully what to use for your reward, make sure it is not something that will bring on additional problems or stress.

Don’t use eating a huge meal if overeating is something you are watching.

Or don’t go drinking with your buddies if your wife is already edgy about you doing it.

Maybe you usually rush at breakfast, take one day to take your time.

Allow yourself a long lunch with a friend.

Go out and do something fun that you have been putting off.

Anything that breaks the flow and that gives you a little joy will work wonders for your attitude and enjoyment of the life process.

And remember, the more time you think about something the more affect it will have on your life.

So, work on your daily enjoyment from both ends, reduce the poor stressed attitude and increase the happy one.


“Enjoyment is not a goal, it is a feeling that accompanies

important ongoing activity.” — Paul Goodman

“Not what we have but what we enjoy, constitutes our

abundance.” — John Petit-Senn

“Once we discover how to appreciate the timeless values in

our daily experiences, we can enjoy the best things in

life.” — Harry Hepner

“Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.” — Dennis Waitley

Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do.

–Gerry Sikorski


I have studied many aspects of personal growth, spirituality, religion, psychology, and philosophy for over 40 years. My writing and training reveals ideas and methods which assist with affecting the desired change and growth people want to live more happy and fulfilling lives. Much focus is on what can be done daily and the how it can be implemented for actual results as opposed to just collecting information.

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