Do You Go Away From Or Towards?
We are all motivated by something.
Everything you do is motivated by something.
Any time you think about making a change, there is some kind of motivation is behind it?
All that you desire to do is motivated by something – some deeper feeling or thought.
All motivation can be broken down to two main types, ‘towards’ and ‘away-from’
Or – what you do want, and what you don’t want.
‘Away-from’ motivation is very powerful almost automatically because very strong emotions and learned reaction can be involved.
The desire to get or stay away from something often drives your action much quicker than with ‘towards’ motivation.
This is when you want to make a change because you don’t like or want something.
Anything that you fear leads to away from motivation – you don’t want to be involved.
If you have a job or relationship that you no longer want to be a part of – you want to get away from it.
Now, ‘towards’ motivation is as it sounds – you do want something, so you attempt to move towards it.
This is many times called positive motivation, seeking what you desire.
Your desire to have, be or do helps drive your thought and activity.
So why is it important to even know which kind of motivation you are involved with at a given time?
Because your motivational drive involves much of your thought capacity.
And the thoughts you hold have a huge affect on what you will experience.
When you are involved in ‘away-from’ motivation your mind is consumed with what you don’t want.
What you focus on expands, so even when you clearly don’t want something, you are focusing on it.
Your subconscious mind and the universal intelligence are always picking up on and acting based on your thought.
Particularly the emotionally backed thought, which is usually involved when you want away from something, brings you more of what you don’t want.
All the negative emotions involved are not sending the message you most likely want.
When you want away from something you really want something else, but you are not focused on that, you are still focusing on what you don’t want.
So guess what thoughts are being acted on with your subconscious and the universal intelligence?
By dwelling on what you no longer want you are actually ‘requesting’ more of the same
This is why it becomes advantageous to convert an ‘away-from’ motivation to a ‘towards’ motivation.
This way all the possible power and energy available is assisting you with what you actually want.
There is always a reciprocal to an ‘away-from’ – towards.
You just need to seek the reverse – what you do want.
Rather than remain stuck going over and over in your mind, and fretting about ‘what if’s’ regarding what you no longer want to be a part of – choose to go towards something.
Let’ say that you no longer want to live where you are living.
Maybe the neighbors are bothering to you.
Maybe the place is in ill repair, maybe you have a difficult landlord –
Whatever, you want to get away from there.
When and only when are you going to actually do something about moving?
Only after you have decided to look for a new place, and you have decided what you want in a new place.
This is towards motivation – you will now go out looking for it.
You decide that you want a new apartment, two bedrooms, a pool, 2nd floor, well maintained, etc.
This is where you have switched to ‘towards motivation’.
If you never get any ideas of what kind of apartment you want, how can you look for it?
How can your mind and the universal intelligence assist you with getting it?
There are people who remain stuck in ‘away from motivation’ for a long timr.
They keep complaining in detail how they don’t like something, but they stay with it.
This behavior is just digging them in deeper.
So you can choose to go towards something new which you do want that replaces what you have.- that is what will get you out of what you don’t want.
Just because you have an initial negative reaction to something you no longer want, you don’t have to keep those emotions going on and on.
Take command of your thinking, listen to your emotions, they are trying to tell you something – then switch them off by focusing on what you do want.
The details of what you don’t want are a guide for you to define the details of what you do want.
Usually you can just look to the opposite.
The way you are motivated is influenced by your past programming – which developed over time.
Patterned habits are yours to change if you choose.
John
Related Quotes —
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To
change something, build a new model that makes the existing model
obsolete.”
— R. Buckminster Fuller
“Getting outside of the box can not only be fun, it is sometimes
necessary for our survival. That is what survival training is
all about. It disrupts our inner programming, the mentality of
going through life on ‘auto-pilot’ so that we can readily see
bright new possibilities heading our way.”
— Gail Pursell Elliott
“No matter where you stand in your business, career or life [and
no matter what challenges you now face] when you make the
conscious decision to become a person of action [rather than
being indecisive] you instantly turn the tide of life in your
favor. Often, if you are mentally ready for action, opportunities
will present themselves in the most unusual ways, and you will
find yourself involved in new and interesting endeavors. Action
has a way of increasing opportunity, while procrastination and
inaction always inhibit success.”
— The Millionaires Library
“If you find yourself in a hole, the first
thing to do is stop diggin’..”
— Will Rogers
“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
— Paul Coelho
“Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think. Suffering follows an evil thought as the wheels of a cart follow the oxen that draws it.
Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think. Joy follows a pure thought like a shadow that never leaves.”
–Buddha
“One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.”
— Andre Gide