March 29, 2007

Feel Better, Stop All The Complaining

Have you heard about the ‘Complaint free Bracelet’ yet?

It was initiated by one person and has exploded!

Oprah did a segment on it during Tuesday’s show, she spoke with the originator of this great idea, a minister in Kansas City, US.

The minister and his group have fulfilled over 2.3 million requests for bracelets.

They are making rubber wristbands, similar to others you have seen around that people use to remind themselves of various things.

The concept with the ‘No Complaint’ bracelet/wristband is this: You put it on one wrist and leave it there until you complain about something. Then you must move it to your other wrist.

Each time you catch yourself complaining about anything, you move it to the other wrist.

The goal is to have it remain on one wrist for 21days, which means that you have not complained about anything for 21 days.

The reason for 21 days is that many feel that it takes 21 days to establish a new habit.

What a wonderful idea, train yourself to not complain – at all!

Have you ever considered how destructive it is to complain?

The complainer is the one who really suffers.

Think about this, if you get more of what you think about – what happens when you complain?

How about your attitude? What is your attitude when you complain?

And your perspective? How have you allowed yourself to look at things?

Does complaining, with the emotional and physical repercussion do anything to support your being happy in life?

Does it support anything good and positive?

Complaining is just a bad habit that drags you down the road of focusing on negativity rather on positive, supportive and progressive thoughts.

You get more of what you think about – what will complaining get you?

The time you use complaining is time you are not feeling joy and peace. You are not living in the moment.

You are stealing time from thinking about and supporting what you DO want.

Complaining helps you remain stuck in what you now have rather than progressing forward.

You are also bringing up negative emotions, which affect your physical health in adverse ways.

Your negative emotions and attitude that start with your complaining will affect other thoughts and behavior.

Complaining is not solution oriented thinking. You are just rehashing something that you aren’t doing anything about.

What do you want in place of complaining?

Think about this.

If you do any complaining – just STOP. It’s not good for you. . . or anyone else!

The bracelet, that is free, is a great tool that will help you break the complaining cycle.

The bracelet project that a group of people has undertaken is helping many individuals and the world..

With fewer people complaining, it gives us all one thing less to complain about!

Go to to get one for yourself and whoever you feel could benefit from using one.

“It is only imperfection that complains of what is imperfect. The more perfect we are, the more gentle and quiet we become towards the defects of others.” — Joseph Addison

“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most do” — Dale Carnegie.

Consider the complaint bracelet.

Use it as a tool to assist with ending your habit of complaining.

Take the challenge to be able to keep it on one wrist for 21 days. You should be well on your way to changing your habit in regard to automatic complaining.

After the 21 days, why not keep it on longer, just to be sure that you firmly cement into your thinking a new way of thinking and talking about what you use to complain about.

In eliminating your complaining, change the way you look at things. Take on a new way of looking at situations that you would have complained about. What other viewpoint and attitude can you have?

What has occurred just IS. Your reaction and complaint is entirely your choice as to how to see it.

Choose to see it from a more solution oriented viewpoint, or in just letting it go. Just because something happened or someone did something does not mean that you must have a reaction and ruminate about it over and over.

Be aware that one of the toughest situations to keep yourself from complaining is when you are around others who regularly complain. Many times we get into gripe sessions with others, even trying to outdo the other with a more extravagant complaint.

Try to remain neutral, not getting involved. In time the others many stop including you in these sessions since you are not goaded by their complaining and you don’t offer you own.

It can also be helpful to introduce the complaint ending process to others to reduce what you are exposed to from them.

Like anything, this will take some attention and effort.

Another thing the wrist band will do for you, is to help you to become more acutely aware of what you are thinking and doing throughout the day. This is another reason to keep up with it after your initial success with 21 days.

Go for it – give it a try.

No – just do it, try really means maybe!

Commit to doing it, be patient with yourself but persistent.

Just don’t stop and success will be inevitable.

It is free, but do consider donating to the group to assure they can keep this going.

“You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses” — Tom Wilson.

“Realize that if you have time to whine and complain about something, then you have the time to do something about it” — Anthony D’Angelo

“The life that conquers is the life that moves with a steady

resolution and persistence toward a predetermined goal. Those

who succeed are those who have thoroughly learned the immense

importance of planning in life, and the tragic brevity of time.” — WJ Davison

“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination are omnipotent. The slogan ‘press on’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.” — Calvin Coolidge

“Success is almost totally dependent upon drive and persistence. The extra energy required to make another effort or try another approach is the secret of winning.” — Dennis Waitley

“Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles, discouragements, and impossibilities: It is this, that in all things distinguishes the strong soul from the weak.” — Thomas Carlyle

What do you think?

Is complaining a problem for you?

For others?



I have studied many aspects of personal growth, spirituality, religion, psychology, and philosophy for over 40 years. My writing and training reveals ideas and methods which assist with affecting the desired change and growth people want to live more happy and fulfilling lives. Much focus is on what can be done daily and the how it can be implemented for actual results as opposed to just collecting information.

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