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Monthly Archives: June 2007
Take a look at what you have been doing and thinking for the last few hours or day.
Are you supporting what you want in your life or are you caught up in hectic reactive behavior?
Of course there are many things which you must do,
But in order to enjoy more of what you want,
You must gradually insert it into your life – yourself.
Ask yourself,
How could I have done things a little differently?
What can I do now, and tomorrow that will bring in a little more of what I want into my day?
Come up with a simple plan of how you will do it.
Schedule it in, go over in your mind what and how,
Use reminder notes, set your watch or phone alarm as a reminder,
Whatever you can use to jog yourself out of the routine just enough to insert a little something different.
Change is usually done little by little more often than through a big event,
Yet we tend to hope for the big event.
While you are waiting you can do it a little at a time and before you know it – you are there!
Checking up on yourself everyday is a good way to discover what to change and how do go about it.
Come up with a balance of doing what is necessary along with a continuous process of growth.
The growth part can very easily slip away, getting consumed by all that you think you need to do in a day.
The power of the human mind is in the ability to exert command over your thinking and what you do.
Choose to step in and be the director of your behavior.
Enjoy the discovery,
John
If you allow fear to stop you – you fail.
In fact that is the only way to fail . . . to never attempt.
If you try and when it does not work properly, you adjust and go again – eventually you will win.
If you never try – you can never win.
And some form of fear can do this to you.
Many get locked into inaction due to the idea that they think they need to work out all the details and possible problems before getting started.
They are afraid that they may run into something they are not aware of and not know how to deal with it.
This concept is the cause of more failure than anything else.
We can get locked in a mental stalemate – thinking that we need to know more to feel confident, yet the best way to learn more is to do more.
True learning comes from analyzing what you do.
Thinking about it actually only approximates what may happen.
Only in the actual doing do you fully interact with all possibilities.
When something is new to you, you cannot know ALL of the possible interactions.
Only after attempting will you be able to come from a perspective of intimate involvement.
Another thing about worry is that it is all a MAYBE.
Take a reasonable amount of time to do a reasonable amount of research and rep work – then take the action you can best determine at the time.
– knowing that you will likely not have every bit of minute possibility covered.
You can’t . . unless you know it all!
Some think they do!
The trap we get stuck in is to believe that we need to know one more thing about it, or solve one more potential roadblock.
How long can this go on?
Forever!
When you think of one thing, then something new is now possible.
And on, and on, and on.
There is an endless supply of ‘maybes’ out there,
. . . but what will really happen only reveals itself when you get going and get intimate with the activity.
Preparation is good and prudent, to a degree.
There is a fine line between not enough preparation and too much.
Are you stuck in the place where you want to feel totally secure before you make a move?
It won’t happen, you must take the leap of faith before knowing it all.
What you are actually telling yourself is that you don’t have confidence in your ability to handle what may come up.
And of course you do.
You will only be able to think from the proper perspective to analyze an outcome after all the features are exposed.
Think about walking on a trail in the woods.
How will you know exactly what your view will be around the next bend?
You may have a map that can provide SOME insight, but not the actual setting and situation.
If you drive a car, you are well able to deal with new situations quickly, as they become present.
You have this ability to utilize with everything you do.
I’ll bet you wondered if you could deal with all the movement of other people and vehicles when you first started to drive.
Confidence is two things –
It is first a decision,
Then it is cumulative.
You need to just decide that you can handle what comes up, just like you have with other things you have done.
After you get going with anything your confidence builds – as long as you keep going.
Each little victory bolsters your confidence.
It is actually better to acknowledge that you will run into unknown situations.
This way there is less mystery to it – it is now a known.
Know that you have the ability to analyze and handle whatever comes up,
And that you will not allow a hitch to stop you.
Know that if you just keep going, making adjustments and more attempts – you will get there.
This process of ‘doing’ will reveal all that you need to take care of in order to win – not before.
You must start on the path before you discover what is one mile out.
Stop procrastinating.
This is just buying into some fear, doubt or worry.
Feel and acknowledge the fear and do it anyway.
Fear is just a signal – not a stop sign.
Sure – heighten your awareness for some possibility – but proceed.
Sitting back and using your ability to wonder will not get you down the path.
Get doing – down the path
John
“It seems that the necessary thing to do is not to fear mistakes, to plunge in, to do the best that one can, hoping to learn enough from blunders to correct them eventually.”
— Abraham Maslow
“When defeat comes, accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more toward your coveted goal.” — Napoleon Hill
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear, and get a record of successful experiences behind you.”
–William Jennings Bryan
“Fear is not a disease of the body; fear kills the soul.”
— Gandhi
“Feel the fear and do it anyway”
— Susan Jeffers
We are all motivated by something.
Everything you do is motivated by something.
Any time you think about making a change, there is some kind of motivation is behind it?
All that you desire to do is motivated by something – some deeper feeling or thought.
All motivation can be broken down to two main types, ‘towards’ and ‘away-from’
Or – what you do want, and what you don’t want.
‘Away-from’ motivation is very powerful almost automatically because very strong emotions and learned reaction can be involved.
The desire to get or stay away from something often drives your action much quicker than with ‘towards’ motivation.
This is when you want to make a change because you don’t like or want something.
Anything that you fear leads to away from motivation – you don’t want to be involved.
If you have a job or relationship that you no longer want to be a part of – you want to get away from it.
Now, ‘towards’ motivation is as it sounds – you do want something, so you attempt to move towards it.
This is many times called positive motivation, seeking what you desire.
Your desire to have, be or do helps drive your thought and activity.
So why is it important to even know which kind of motivation you are involved with at a given time?
Because your motivational drive involves much of your thought capacity.
And the thoughts you hold have a huge affect on what you will experience.
When you are involved in ‘away-from’ motivation your mind is consumed with what you don’t want.
What you focus on expands, so even when you clearly don’t want something, you are focusing on it.
Your subconscious mind and the universal intelligence are always picking up on and acting based on your thought.
Particularly the emotionally backed thought, which is usually involved when you want away from something, brings you more of what you don’t want.
All the negative emotions involved are not sending the message you most likely want.
When you want away from something you really want something else, but you are not focused on that, you are still focusing on what you don’t want.
So guess what thoughts are being acted on with your subconscious and the universal intelligence?
By dwelling on what you no longer want you are actually ‘requesting’ more of the same
This is why it becomes advantageous to convert an ‘away-from’ motivation to a ‘towards’ motivation.
This way all the possible power and energy available is assisting you with what you actually want.
There is always a reciprocal to an ‘away-from’ – towards.
You just need to seek the reverse – what you do want.
Rather than remain stuck going over and over in your mind, and fretting about ‘what if’s’ regarding what you no longer want to be a part of – choose to go towards something.
Let’ say that you no longer want to live where you are living.
Maybe the neighbors are bothering to you.
Maybe the place is in ill repair, maybe you have a difficult landlord –
Whatever, you want to get away from there.
When and only when are you going to actually do something about moving?
Only after you have decided to look for a new place, and you have decided what you want in a new place.
This is towards motivation – you will now go out looking for it.
You decide that you want a new apartment, two bedrooms, a pool, 2nd floor, well maintained, etc.
This is where you have switched to ‘towards motivation’.
If you never get any ideas of what kind of apartment you want, how can you look for it?
How can your mind and the universal intelligence assist you with getting it?
There are people who remain stuck in ‘away from motivation’ for a long timr.
They keep complaining in detail how they don’t like something, but they stay with it.
This behavior is just digging them in deeper.
So you can choose to go towards something new which you do want that replaces what you have.- that is what will get you out of what you don’t want.
Just because you have an initial negative reaction to something you no longer want, you don’t have to keep those emotions going on and on.
Take command of your thinking, listen to your emotions, they are trying to tell you something – then switch them off by focusing on what you do want.
The details of what you don’t want are a guide for you to define the details of what you do want.
Usually you can just look to the opposite.
The way you are motivated is influenced by your past programming – which developed over time.
Patterned habits are yours to change if you choose.
John
Related Quotes —
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To
change something, build a new model that makes the existing model
obsolete.”
— R. Buckminster Fuller
“Getting outside of the box can not only be fun, it is sometimes
necessary for our survival. That is what survival training is
all about. It disrupts our inner programming, the mentality of
going through life on ‘auto-pilot’ so that we can readily see
bright new possibilities heading our way.”
— Gail Pursell Elliott
“No matter where you stand in your business, career or life [and
no matter what challenges you now face] when you make the
conscious decision to become a person of action [rather than
being indecisive] you instantly turn the tide of life in your
favor. Often, if you are mentally ready for action, opportunities
will present themselves in the most unusual ways, and you will
find yourself involved in new and interesting endeavors. Action
has a way of increasing opportunity, while procrastination and
inaction always inhibit success.”
— The Millionaires Library
“If you find yourself in a hole, the first
thing to do is stop diggin’..”
— Will Rogers
“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
— Paul Coelho
“Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think. Suffering follows an evil thought as the wheels of a cart follow the oxen that draws it.
Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think. Joy follows a pure thought like a shadow that never leaves.”
–Buddha
“One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.”
— Andre Gide
Are you seeking too little?
Are you short changing yourself based on what is really possible?
Why?
Do you think you are not worthy?
Not qualified?
Maybe you have never done something before and you can’t see how you can.
Have you allowed your expectations to be lowered because of past shortcomings?
Let me ask you a question,
Have you ever seen a partial of an oak tree? One that is only part of what it could be.
Actually I could not even describe what a partial oak tree looks like. What is missing?
The oak seed, an acorn, only asks for the whole deal – not part of it.
And what does it get? All of it!
The universe assists the acorn to develop into the tree of its dreams. What the tree becomes is based on its vision for itself.
That’s what is in the acorn – the picture of a fully developed oak tree – not just part of it.
You see where I am going with this right.
Seems simple, and many of you are thinking, this is not a big deal, more about the seed thing again. I get it.
OK, but what are you doing about it?
Statistics shows that most people are not living up to their capabilities, in fact most don’t even know what they are.
Why?
We are not bringing a big enough bucket when the ‘stuff’ is being given out.
The universe will fill whatever vessel we bring – large or small.
The real question becomes why don’t we being a larger bucket?
We all have ‘reasons’, which are based on the perceptions and interpretations we have accumulated:
We doubt it is possible for us.
We don’t allow ourselves to dream or fully envision what we could.
We restrict ourselves based on our personal self-concept.
We doubt our expertise or abilities.
We don’t have any experience having, being or doing – so we don’t think we can.
We think we need to know exactly how to do it before we start.
We don’t think we have the resources.
We have listened to the negations of others.
We are unsure of listening to our inner voice or unaware of it.
In order to change anything for the better, we need to challenge the validity of our ‘reasons’
The key is to ask for more if you want more.
Bring a bigger bucket to be filled – what if it was actually filled?
You will never know until you try.
Allowing these negative ideas to squelch your deep desires is like stepping on an acorn, twisting your foot over it until it is turned to mush.
It’s easy to see why this seed would never grow into a magnificent oak tree.
The full concept of the oak tree was destroyed way before the universe had a chance to do anything with it.
And so go your ideas, knocked down in their infancy without a chance of taking root.
Let your bucket get bigger – for bigger ideas – bigger requests – bigger results.
John
“Too often we visit the well of divine abundance with a teacup instead of a bucket.”
— Elinor MacDonald
“The well of Providence is deep.
It’s the buckets we bring to it that are small.”
— Mary Webb
Take some action –
Check with yourself,
What is your little voice telling you when you start to think about something great and wonderful?
Do you hear something like:
Aww. . that’s not for you.
Not in this lifetime!
Who do you think you are?
You don’t deserve it.
And just how do you think you are going to do that?
You don’t know how to do that!
What will ______ think?
Stop dreaming.
Don’t waste the effort.
What if it doesn’t work?
You don’t have the education/training.
And where are you gonna get the money for all that?
Why, you’ll just end up getting hurt.
Each one of these is a fear, doubt or worry – and they will continue holding you back as long as you let them.
All these ideas are supported by your protective ego mind.
They key is to question every self statement like these, and challenge their validity.
Ask yourself why you should believe in them,
Hwy you should follow them,
And why you should continue with them.
Ask;
Are they helping and supporting you in living the life you truly want.
You are deserving of anything you can think of – your past does not need to dictate your future – redefine yourself.
Affirmations are a good tool to help reprogram your chattering mind to dwell on what you want rather than keep you from it. The more you make emotionally backed statements the more they will become your commonplace thoughts.
Rise above all the negative chatter, and the limited level of your divine request.
Ask for it all – use a bigger bucket
Have you ever actually asked for everything you deeply want -how do you know it doesn’t work?
When you allow your ego based chatter to head you off right away – both you and the universe never really know what you truly want.
Then how can you and the universe do anything towards bringing it about?
Question this ‘blocking’ chatter – it’s your right!
John