Are You Treating Yourself Right?

There is a seemingly small thing that you can be doing to yourself that makes things less enjoyable.

It can determine the difference in how you feel while you are doing something laborious or difficult, trying to accomplish something, or even affect your overall disposition.

It’s how you treat yourself, or how you don’t treat yourself.

Do you tend to be a taskmaster with yourself?

Do you allow yourself to feel rushed and stressed, and thinking there is no time for yourself to enjoy what you are doing?

Many times when we are faced with doing something that we have decided is absolutely necessary, we get so intense with it that we are not just not happy, we are noticeably unhappy.

Who says that we must be unhappy, even when we are doing something that we think is important?

Feeling bad about what you must do is like punishing yourself for doing it.

It may actually be hard but hard does not mean bad or negative.

Everything is not easy, so learn to enjoy it all.

Remember that life is a process.

So when you are working on changing yourself, or you trying to accomplish something, don’t be so hard on yourself.

Who says you have to be miserable during the process before you have changed or accomplished what you want?

Why not reward yourself as you go along.

This can help reduce the stress of a lengthy process, but actually it can help you actually come to enjoy the process you are in.

You want to do more than just remove the negative feelings, that would just bring you to neutral, rather you want to add the positive happy feelings.

You can purposefully build in a rewards system for yourself.

Set smaller goals within the larger task of project as points where you can pull away from the intensity for a bit and enjoy something.

This also gives you the feeling of accomplishment sooner than waiting for the whole thing to be done.

Choose carefully what to use for your reward, make sure it is not something that will bring on additional problems or stress.

Don’t use eating a huge meal if overeating is something you are watching.

Or don’t go drinking with your buddies if your wife is already edgy about you doing it.

Maybe you usually rush at breakfast, take one day to take your time.

Allow yourself a long lunch with a friend.

Go out and do something fun that you have been putting off.

Anything that breaks the flow and that gives you a little joy will work wonders for your attitude and enjoyment of the life process.

And remember, the more time you think about something the more affect it will have on your life.

So, work on your daily enjoyment from both ends, reduce the poor stressed attitude and increase the happy one.

John

“Enjoyment is not a goal, it is a feeling that accompanies

important ongoing activity.” — Paul Goodman

“Not what we have but what we enjoy, constitutes our

abundance.” — John Petit-Senn

“Once we discover how to appreciate the timeless values in

our daily experiences, we can enjoy the best things in

life.” — Harry Hepner

“Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.” — Dennis Waitley

Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do.

–Gerry Sikorski

Your World Is Your Reflection

Have you thought about how your life is a mirror, reflecting what you think?

This has been stated in different ways:

A mirror,

A reflection,

Evidence,

Expression,

Manifestation,

You are what you think, you get what you project.

Your thinking, your state of mind and your actions always elicit a response in your life, continuously -all the time, everything – always.

Your power comes with your ability to take command of your thought and actions.

This is how you have influence on your life’s experience.

If you allow your mind to be a “random action machine,” you will get random results that you must then deal with.

Take notice of what you are doing and the results you are living with? Are they what you really want?

Why not take charge of your thinking and learn to direct it in ways that support your purpose, your deep inner feelings about what you should be doing with your life.

When you are noticing that there are things going on in your life that you are not so pleased with, take a look at yourself.

Ask, “what can I think and do differently that will affect what I experience?”

Your ability to think about what you want whenever you want, is the result of your self-discipline being in command over random thought.

Here is a poem by William Arthur Ward that clearly states what you can do to see specific results.

Truths For Living

William Arthur Ward

The more generous we are,

the more joyous we become.

The more cooperative we are,

the more valuable we become.

The more enthusiastic we are,

the more productive we become.

The more serving we are,

the more prosperous we become.

The more outgoing we are,

the more helpful we become.

The more curious we are,

the more creative we become.

The more patient we are,

the more understanding we become.

The more persistent we are,

the more successful we become.

Doesn’t that do something to put it in perspective?

Action – Reaction,

Input – output,

Your purposeful thought and action precede the evidence you want.

This poem is a mini self-improvement guide if you’re looking to reduce stress and anxiety, and increase your happiness, joy, and fulfillment.

Don’t go looking at the reflection, the evidence, to change without your changing.

John

“The universe is transformation: our life is what our thoughts make it. — Marcus Aurelius

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” — Winston Churchill

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” — Anne Dillard”

Are Your Self Questions Leading To Stress And Anxiety Or Happiness?

What is your mind doing all day long when you are doing what you do?

It is very common to find yourself asking yourself questions, which is a very powerful personal growth tool that you should be using.

If that is, if you want to discover ways to improve your life and reduce your stress and anxiety.

But, many times the questions that you are asking yourself are more of the negative vein.

Like-

Why does this always happen to me?

What is wrong with me?

Why don’t they like me?

Why is it always so hard for me?

Why can’t I always screw up?

Why do they do this to me?

Now, can see that these seem innocent enough, but they are actually very damaging if you persist with this line of questioning.

It is actually a form of complaining.

When you continuously repeat those kinds of questions you are just reinforcing what you don’t want.

These are actually negative affirmations that you are hammering in to your mind.

There is a way to reverse this negative thought bombardment on your mind.

You need to become aware of your mind chatter and what you say to yourself all day long.

This way you will catch these innocent questions early before repeating them for a time.

Now these are natural questions that come up when you are in certain situations, this is natural.

But the trick is to quickly flop them around to an opposite positive statement of something you do want.

Then when you say this positive statement or question you are actually seeking a solution based response from your inner self and the universe.

Such as-

What can I do to help them to like me?

What is the best way to do this?

What can I do to do this well?

What outcome do I want with this?

How can I get the outcome I want?

What can I do right now to change the way I think about this?

Of course you can get more specific to the situation at hand.

Flipping a negative question is easy, just rewrite it based on what you want.

With any thing you don’t want, like, have, feel or do – you can then look to its opposite – what you do want.

That is what you should be keeping your mind on.

Your subconscious and the universe responds to your thoughts.

Take command of your thoughts and guide your life experience to how you want it.

John

“Whatever commands our time, energy and resources, commands

us.” — Tom Sine

“He who cannot command himself should obey. And many can command themselves, but much is still lacking before they can obey themselves.” — Friedrich Nietzsche

“The answers you receive

depend upon the questions you ask.” — Thomas Kuhn

“Great minds ask great questions.” — Michael Gelb

“If we would have new knowledge, we must get a whole world

of new questions.” — Susanne K. Langer

“Every clarification breeds new questions.” — Arthur Bloch

“The word question is derived from the Latin quarrier (to seek)

which is the same root as the word for quest. A creative life is

a continued quest, and good questions can be very useful guides.

Most useful are open-ended questions; they allow for fresh

unanticipated answers to reveal themselves.” — Source Unknown

“Asking the proper question is the central action of

transformation… Questions are the key that cause the secret

doors of the psyche to swing open.” — Clarissa Pinkola Estes

What ya gonna do with all that stuff you know ‘about’ life?

You’ve heard the statements like, “knowledge is power” I’m sure, but I hope you haven’t fallen for it!

You know how, many times, when someone says something, there is more to it than the apparent statement they just made. There is more that is assumed.

Well, the statements about knowledge being power do not explain the entire concept; there’s more to it.

So, here is the rest of the story —

What exactly can knowledge do when not utilized? Well, it can be stored, cataloged and even checked on periodically, to make sure it is still there – and it can be shared with others.

And isn’t this the same whether the knowledge is in our mind or on a shelf? If you have the all the knowledge to build a house and you never build a house, what power does that knowledge have?

Now if you pass the information on to someone else that actually uses it to build a house, you could say that you were instrumental in playing a part in getting the house build. But I want to address what knowledge can do for you directly here.

Isn’t unused knowledge in your mind just like a book on the shelf, just being stored there? If you are a doctor who knows how to save the life of a person having a massive heart attack, but you don’t even attempt — what value have you offered that person?

Isn’t your power in that actual use of your knowledge and skills? It certainly is for the person suffering the heart attack! How much power do you really possess with stored knowledge and even skills unused? Not much for our heart attack victim!

This analogy applies exactly the same way for your life and what you know ‘about’ life, but don’t use. If you’re like most, you have vast volumes of information and knowledge that you have collected, but not used.

Am I right? Look at yourself – and be honest with yourself here.

How can I be so on-the-money with this statement? The facts!

Research statistics have shown that 97% of people acquiring self-improvement information DO NOT USE IT! I didn’t make this up! And I was one of the 97% for a long time as well as the many people I’ve seen professing to be working on personal growth through the years.

All gaining far more information than what was actually getting applied to the point of getting the desired results. It can be different if you choose. Choose to use what knowledge you acquire to get actual results.

And another point here, wouldn’t it be better for you to utilize what others before you have already come up with that works, over someone just telling you ‘about’ it?

If you were studying to become a surgeon who would you rather learn from, one who has read all the books or one who has done it? I know which one I would hope you learned from if I were your patient!

“There are two modes of acquiring knowledge, namely by reasoning

and experience. Reasoning draws a conclusion and makes us grant

the conclusion, but does not make the conclusion certain, nor

does it remove doubt so that the mind may rest on the intuition

of truth, unless the mind discovers it by the path of experience.”

— Roger Bacon

Many tools and methods can be followed that will give you results if you put in the effort.

There is an effective system that seems to work well, science. How does a scientist look at a task?

After they get an idea and form a hypothesis about it, what do they do next? They research the topic of their hypothesis for what is already known about it up to this point.

Why? Simple, right — they want to take what is currently known and go from there with their own research. Use what is known to build upon.

Why should they start from the beginning, ignoring what is now known, when they can be several steps ahead? Plus any practices and methods developed by others are utilized to speed up progress.

Again, this applies to your life. Find and use tools and methods that have already shown to yield results for others.

Have you noticed yet a pattern to what I am describing here? Here’s a huge ‘secret key’ to understanding how your life works. Look at how everything else works, it all works the same way.

The systems operating within the universe are repeated in various aspects and manners. The same system is repeated in societies, in families, work groups, in relationships and your individual life, but also in all of nature.

Have you ever wondered why the computer systems that man has developed is so much like the human brain? Hmmm! You know your brain is an electrical device operating millions of microscopic switches!

With this in mind here is something to ponder. With a computer, what is easier to do — allowing the operating system to function in the ways already set up, or get it to do something new and entirely different?

New programs or changes in the operating system do not happen without some specific conscious effort. Hmmm, sounds like my brain!

I have a theory about why only about 3% of people actually utilize the knowledge and known affective methods brought about by others — We each want to be independent and unique from others. And this is supported by our belief that we are in fact different from others.

From this we think that we want to and have to, do it all uniquely for ourselves by ourselves.

I think most of us tend to have this independent streak where we think much of our power is based on our independence, our self-reliance.

I think this is supported by what is called our EGO, which wants to keep us comfortable and feeling self-important at almost any cost. This keeps us separated, in our mind, from others and the universe which we are actually but a part of.

Stop trying to do it all on your own. Take a clue from the system of science that we have come to understand and use quite well, and use this in your life.

Whatever ideas you have about how your life CAN be, look for information and the methods that others have already developed on the subject — and utilize them for yourself. Just imagine if every auto manufacturer had to re-invent the wheel for every new car model?

Don’t do this in your life.

“There are plenty of good ideas if only they can be backed with the power of action.”

— Winston Churchill

The KEY here is to USE it, not just acquire it. Acquiring information has a certain satisfaction of accomplishment that comes with it. This may be one reason why we stop there and not go on to actually use the information for some good.

My personal intention is to help increase the 3% statistic to 5%, then 10%, then to 20% and beyond. Can you imagine what our world will be like if 20% of the people were actually growing and developing themselves on a regular daily basis, just using the knowledge that is currently available?

Imagine how much good will be available to influence other people? But it starts with each of us individually developing a deeper understanding, a knowing only obtained through our experience of doing something with our knowledge.

How about you, are you ready to truly enjoy your ever-expanding possibilities and positively affect others with your life?

Then you need to stop just collecting more and more information, and find the pertinent knowledge, existing tools and methods that you can use to slingshot your growth at speeds you have not yet known.

Get out of your own way and allow the intention of the universal spirit to flow unobstructed through your life.

But you must make a big choice, will it be either collecting or using? Collecting can give you that false sense of accomplishment. “Wow, look at all that I have acquired!”

The power is in the using, acquisition is just a step in the process — don’t get stuck there.

John

“How you gather, manage and use information will determine whether you win or lose.”

— Bill Gates

“Action has a way of increasing opportunity, while procrastination and

inaction always inhibit success.”

— The Millionaires Library

“The undertaking of a new action

brings new strength.”

— Eveners

A 92-Year WISE Old Man

Today I have an inspirational and thought provoking story to share with you, and I don’t have an originating source.

It’s a short story, take a look – it’s worth it!

A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready.

As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window.

“I love it,” he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

“Mr. Jones, you haven’t seen the room; just wait.”

“That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” he replied.

“Happiness is something you decide on ahead of

time.

Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged … it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it.

“It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up.

I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.

Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away. Just for this time in my life.

Old age is like a bank account.

You withdraw from what you’ve put in.

So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories!

Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank.

I am still depositing.

” Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.

2. Free your mind from worries.

3. Live simply.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.

Procrastination holding you back?

Procrastination holding you back?

Many times when you want to do something and you attempt to do activities towards the new, you find it to be very difficult. It may even appear that you are stopping yourself. Well many times you are!

Procrastination is usually based on some block you have about doing something based on a fear, or some sort of confusion about what to do.

As to being confused, the mind can hold us back if we think we must know everything clearly before proceeding. This needing to know everything, based on the fear of the unknown, is just our rationalization of what we perceive.

To move ahead, you need to get yourself to mentally allow yourself to proceed with what you do know, with the faith that additional clarity will continue to be revealed as you proceed towards the goal. The key here is that you must start, you must do something, whatever you know now.

As to the blocks, there are many potential things in your mind that can be the basis of a block. As you said, fear of rejection, also fear of success, failure, feeling you don’t deserve it, aren’t capable, don’t know how, what will others think, and the new endeavor not fitting into your perception of yourself based on the past or self-concept.

The way to get over these blocks, as with any thing is to face them. Don’t continue to bury them. They must be brought up, faced, analyzed and understood. At one time the feelings or thought habits served a purpose, but you can decide it they are appropriate for you today. If they are not, thank them for serving you in the past and let them go.

Decide on a new perception and attitude regarding the future. Those old things can be converted into mere memories rather than controlling programs for today.

Seek to see the feelings clearly in a positive curious way.

I suggest asking yourself questions, but phrase them in the positive not the negative. Ask from the perspective of seeking revealing and helpful answers not from the point of frustration or resentment.

Ask yourself questions such as,

What are my feelings about ____?

Why do I feel this way?

What purpose are these feelings?

Then ask again to the answers you get – then why do I feel this way? – and again and again, to drill down to the deeper root feeling and original seed, beginning of the feelings.

Why did I need to do this then, for what purpose?

How does this serve me now?

How else can I feel about this today?

Vary the questions as appropriate for you but continue to be persistent with this but relaxed at the same time. Do not try to force yourself.

Give it time, you may not get a clear answer the first time asking, your ego mind my want to protect you from any potential discomfort, which is why the feelings are buried in the first place.

Just keep asking calmly and tell yourself to be open to what ever needs to come up for you to clearly understand this.

There are other things you can do to help discover the blocks and change the habits, like hypnotherapy and the related NLP, meditation, brain wave work, EFT techniques and more.

If you are not having good results by yourself get some assistance with it, because until you can change the way your brain is dealing with these thoughts they will continue in the same way.

You are at the first crucial step, you recognize that something is there in your mind that does not properly support where you want to go on your life. It would not rise up as it has if it did not need to be dealt with.

One more thing is don’t allow yourself to be resentful of those feelings or habits, remember that at one time in the past they served you for some reason. Bless them and let them go so that you will have space to set up a new way to think about it. If you are angry or resentful you will actually continue to focus on what you no longer want and it will persist!

What you resist, persists!

Seek to understand, analyze and let go, create the new concept that allows you to move forward.

Reformatting habits established in the past is part of our ongoing growth process – if you look at it as such.

Welcome change even if it feels uncomfortable. It’s only uncomfortable because your ego doesn’t want you to feel bad. You must step through it or you will always stay as you are.

That’s growth!

John

We All Need Time And Space To Be

Are you always ‘on’ or distracted or interacting with others?

This can lead to a low level stress if you are not allowing yourself ‘alone’ time.

An important aspect of life that is often overlooked is the quiet and ‘alone’ time that we all need to get in touch with ourselves.

All of the different categories of activities we are involved with in life are necessary. I am talking about our social interaction, workgroup relations, individual relationships, family relationships, intimate relationships and our relationship with self. Each of these is a vehicle for our growth and development, as we learn and experience differently from each one.

Many people don’t give a lot of thought as to what kind of a balance we have in our life with these activities. The most commonly someone will notice that they are alone much of the time and they yearn for more human interaction. If you are in this situation it would be worth your while to make the effort to get around more people, interacting in some way that you find enjoyable.

One of the things that can happen is that we can find ourselves ‘on’ too much and not having any time for ourselves without outer interactive stimulus. Being ‘on’ is when you are actively involved with outside stimuli, thinking and acting in conjunction with them, almost feeling that it you are on automatic. This is a part of the necessary human experience; we are designed to inter-relate with one another. We learn about others as well as about ourselves from others, as well as develop our interaction skills.

But, in this state we are not usually with ourselves, we are distracted from outside rather than in tune with ourselves. Not that we should be looking to be selfish with our self, but we do need time to ourselves. We each need our own time to be just with ourselves and many times this is overlooked in life.

Particularly when there are people in our life that are demanding our attention for various reasons. We just see this as our life and not think much about it, but we a neglecting a very necessary need we all have, to be alone. We need to just ‘be’ with our thoughts, to be able to calm down our thoughts and this can’t be done with the constant input of stimulus from outside of us.

One common activity where people need to be alone is meditation, even if you practice this in a group, you become alone. Others around you are not attempting to interact with you, they are being with themselves as well. With meditation you learn to calm your thinking and let go, allowing yourself to be aware at a much deeper level.

Another necessary individual activity is introspection. Just being able to allow your thoughts to delve into something you want to ponder or understand.

For most people, being alone in thought is how they connect with our creativity as well as our intuition. These are necessary connections we must be able to cultivate in order to expand our life experience.

We also need our ‘alone’ time to relax in a way that does not even occur when in the company of a loved one. Many people get much relaxation feel rejuvenation from activities they do alone with no outside stimuli. This allows one to do just as they wish without the need to consider how it affects others.

Some people are not able to get their thoughts into a ‘flow’ unless they are alone. Look to people in history, scientist, writers, painters, philosophers and inventors all had much ‘alone’ time, where their ideas ‘flow’.

Many people are by nature very concerned about the people in their life, that they are continuously considering how everything they do could affect the other. They can’t seem to get out of this mode of thought as long as they are around other people.

So, to be able to allow their mind to relax, get calm, to allow intuition and creativity to surface, they must be along on a regular basis.

This can be something you have not even thought about, as you may be doing just fine with the amount of ‘alone’ time you are getting. But someone you interact with may not be getting the ‘alone’ time they need.

We all need ‘alone’ time to truly come to understand ourselves. One of the most powerful thought activities you can do is to ask yourself and spirit questions about yourself and life to gain a deeper understanding of yourself.

It is absolutely necessary, if you want to grow and develop in life, to continually seek to understand more about yourself and you must calm your thinking in order to do this.

One of the things we all can do in our various relationships is to keep this basic human need in mind. Make it a point to allow those who want this ‘alone’ time to have it. Provide them the space they need.

When we are able to do these alone activities we are actually better for the people we relate with. We are more understanding, calmer throughout the day, less susceptible to stress, just have a better attitude overall.

Make it a point to notice the different ways we each seem to have different needs in terms of being alone. Learn to respect the ‘alone’ time needs of others. Some need to be alone when they are upset before they want to talk about it, some need to be alone to be creative,

Notice what others need and allow them to be themselves, everyone has a different mix of activities that works best for them. There is always a way to compromise with the needs of all, if you make it your intent.

There are good days available, get yours now!

John

Are you thinking what you want to think?

I was recently asked about how to deal with the emotional and mental drama that we lug around with us. This is the stuff that we have accumulated through our life that becomes part of the filter system we see with and is the basis of our habitual thinking and behavior. It’s the stuff that helps keep us doing things the same way over and over even when it is not what we want.

Commonly this mental emotional baggage is termed to be negative, particularly after we realize it is helping to keep us from progressing as we desire. This is the stuff that keeps us from doing the things that would support the life we want.

The continual negative thinking, constant fear, doubt and worry. Negative self talk, insecurity, low self-concept and unworthiness are included.

The big question is what to do about it. Change it!

I know, not that easy. Well, actually it can be but it not usually is. Humans have the ability to change their mind quickly, just like flipping a light switch. But we usually don’t allow that because we tend to hang onto whatever is familiar no matter how destructive it my be. Habit patterns; even those we say we no longer want.

Basically you must change your thinking and behavior habits to habits that support the life you want rather than the life you are stuck with. First you need to realize that you allowed all that stuff to build up in your mind, you are responsible! Don’t get upset, that is actually a good thing. If you did it, you can re-do it. If someone else had done it outside of your control you would have no hope of changing it. Luckily that is not the case.

Another point to understand is that your mind cannot hold two differing concepts about the same thing. You either like anchovies or you don’t, you are afraid of something or you are not, you like money or you don’t. If you don’t want to have a different position on something you must change it. You can’t just add the new concept while leaving the old. You can’t both like and dislike something at the same time.

The concept of money is a big one for a lot of people. You may think that you like money and wonder where it all is. But at the same time you may hold thoughts of resentment or disdain for rich people. These negative thoughts will sabotage your desire for money, if you don’t like people with money how could you let yourself be one! Your mind won’t let it happen.

You can figure out how you think about something by the evidence. Its evidence reveals the operation, function or behavior of everything. Your behavior can be figured out if I only see the result. There are always certain actions that lead up to a specific result. When you look at a rose bush, do you think there are any functions going on inside the plant to produce an orange? No, the rose bush does exactly what it does to produce the results you see. So do you and I.

The first step is to identify these thoughts and behaviors that are no longer serving you. Look at the evidence of your life, what are you doing, what do you have, how do you think? Take notice in terms of positive/negative, good/bad, supportive/non-supportive, do/not do —

Your daily self-talk or mind chatter

What do you think about all day long?

You attitudes about people, places, things and life.

What does your emotional energy most support?

Level of self-concept.

Anger – happiness ratio.

Satisfaction – dissatisfaction.

Motivated – unmotivated.

Concept of what is possible for you.

What you are capable of.

Are you worthy?

To list a few

What you think about everything should be up for scrutiny because it all affects your life.

In general your predominant thoughts and emotions at all times throughout every day need to be in support of what you want. They cannot be on what you don’t want. Your subconscious and the universe will help you get whatever you request –and all your thoughts and emotions are the request.

There are different processes designed to assist you with this process of discovering how you think and feel, and then put in place what you want. You can do this on your own but I highly suggest getting assistance in some form. The more guided and directed the better. You know you are human, it is very easy to sluff off and not keep up with something that there is no commitment to. Guided programs and coaches provide commitment and accountability.

I am an example of someone who did it the slow way, mostly alone actually not even doing the suggested exercises and activities. I don’t suggest you go that route, get it done quicker, use a guided tool. The key is you have to DO something to see change. And I don’t mean only physical doing, actually it is more mental and emotional activity.

There are hypnotherapy methods, mental conditioning audio programs, and different guided programs that utilize multiple techniques. And there are personal coaches that help with this.

I have been using Creating Abundance by Dreams Alive, which I like.

http://www.smoothredirect.com/biwlf/

And they have a new Secrets Of Manifesting E-Course that looks good

http://www.smoothredirect.com/sqkdz/

In both of these guided parts and you will be taught EFT techniques. Take a look at them.

Keep discovering and growing,

John

Doing what you want

One of my newsletter subscribers was talking about how she wants to become a writer, so I though I would comment about getting started with something new.

First, doing something on your own takes self discipline, you don’t have a boss keeping you going enough to get things done.  It is amazing how much time can fritter away if you do not keep yourself on task with what your specifically want to be doing.

Us humans, we can easily fall into that place of continuous preparation, never taking enough purposeful focused action to accomplish anything meaningful.  You may find that you must be an even tougher taskmaster to yourself than your boss was.

It will take motivation to do this.  Motivation and drive that come from a deep seated burning desire.  This is where you will discover the energy behind passion.  If you don’t have sufficient inner drive, it will be tough to get yourself to do what you must to succeed at what you want.

This deep desire is what helps you to be able to do what may be uncomfortable and that which you would rather not do.  There is a part of all of us that seeks comfort over all else, and it will win over your use of time if you do not have enough drive and self discipline.

Now, this deep desire comes from your purpose, your reason for being, your why.  If what you want to do is tied to your purpose you will be getting assistance from your subconscious mind as well as Spirit.  Although, you may be getting in your own way and sabotaging yourself with some of your past habit patterns.  And this is a subject all it’s own.

You don’t have to be able to state what your purpose is, don’t stress if you don’t know, most people don’t know.  However you can get a clue about it by what you are deeply drawn of urged to do.  You must be careful to separate your deep signals of desire from your ego desires.

The other main area to think about when starting out in something like writing is to learn about the field of writing.  What kinds of writing are there, what are you inclined to do?  Are you looking for a way to make money from it?  When you study the field you will discover many various avenues of possibility.

Now I’m not trying to be a wet blanket here but getting something published can be a long arduous process.  I highly urge you to really research well the different ways to get published and understand them all before jumping in.  There may be writing opportunities for you that you have not though of that are a little different from what you initially thought you want to do that may be appealing and have better pay prospects.

Be careful for people selling all kinds of magical ways to get published quickly and easily, they are not all they are cracked up to be.  Just know what you are buying.

And also it will take persistence and determination, which is supported by your inner drive.  Keep yourself doing purposeful activities that lead to the results you want and you will move in the direction of your desire.  You do know the sure fire ways to never get to where you want to be are?  Quit or don’t even start.

Another warning.  I said earlier that you need to know about what you want to do before doing it.  But you certainly do not need to know ALL there is to know, get started in whatever way you can as soon as you can.  ‘You will learn the most about anything by immersing yourself in it.  Don’t get stuck thinking you must know it all before proceeding.

All that you will encounter on your way to what you want is part of your life journey, just keep going – do something about it now.

John

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We All Need A Purpose

I just read an interview article on Beliefnet with actress Doris Roberts, who is best known for her role as Marie Barone, Ray’s mother on the show “Everybody Loves Raymond.”

She is playing in a new Hallmark Channel movie this weekend called “Our House” where she plays a lonely old woman who gives up on life. That is until she meets Bobby, a homeless woman played by Judy Reyas- from ‘Scrubs.”

In the story the homeless woman helps the Doris’ character find an new purpose, offering her home to homeless people and helping them out.

I know this is a movie but it reminded me of how we all need a purpose.

There are many older people who are living a lonely depressed life because they feel they no longer have a purpose. Their children are away on their own, they are no longer working. perhaps not involved in any activities and alone. This is a perfect example of what the mind will do when there is no drive for any reason, it can be a major cause of depression and anxiety.

People need a reason, a why, a purpose to drive and motivate them in order to experience happiness. Feeling low self esteem can become a problen when you don’t feel you are of use. There are statistics indicating that a large number of men die within a few years after retiring from high powered jobs, where they were busy, responsible and challenged.

If they don’t find a new purpose to get involved with they feel useless, which can lead to stress, anxiety and depression. When a person feel useless and of little value the will to live can become extremely low.

And what about the homeless people? Many of them have lost their drive because how they feel about themselves. Self motivation is difficult when you see no purpose. Due to circumstances they may have given up on a purpose they once had, seeing it as no longer feasable. Maybe they never had one. It becomes easier and easier to drop futher away from the average productive life because it takes effort which must be backed by drive — that they don’t have.

These groups of people are but two examples of people who could use assistance finding a purpose to get behind mentally and emotionally. This should be part of the effort given to help these groups as well as others.

People will do much more for themselves when they have their own reasons to exert effort.

Those who are driven to actively support their own purpose can easily miss the fact that there are people out there that are struggling with life because they do not have this crucial motivational key. We just don’t imagine someone without a purpose when we are embroiled in fulfilling ours.

But look at all the individual suffering and the burdon on society these people frequently are, just because they lack purpose. What if we could assist them with finding something they can get excited about?

Pay attention to others you are around. Better yet, give them some attention by taking the time to find out whether they feel they have a reason to get up in the morning? Maybe you can help them discover one. Imagine what could happen if you assisted them in raising their motivation level to match yours?

Pay attention, there are learning and growing opportunities everywhere,

John